What To Say When Texting A Girl (The Ultimate Guide)

Learn exactly what to say when texting a girl. These easy and simple text messages work to get great results (for both getting AND keeping high quality women) while also saving you time and money.

If you want to know what to say when texting a girl, then first and foremost, identify your goal.

What’s your desired end result from texting her? Is it to try to get sex from a girl at all costs? Or is it finding, meeting and keeping a *really* hot, high value woman who wants to jump your bones day and night, while refusing to play the begging/dancing/Pick Up game that many guys play just to get attention from a girl.

But I’m getting ahead of myself.

What To Say When Texting A Girl: The Goal

The goal of non-face-to-face communication for guys who value efficiency, effectiveness and quality in their dating lives is setting up plans to meet in person for a date.

When communication is going on via phone, text, Skype, Facebook, the girl has the advantage. She gets free attention while simultaneously losing interest in the guy over the long-run as he is more and more “available.” (Not to mention, if she doesn’t lose interest right away, guys are setting the precedent for always being able to entertain her with text conversations.)

Oh yeah, and the guy gets no respect for sending texts to the girl. No one’s really winning here except attention-whores and girls who are skilled at stringing guys along.

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What To Say When Texting A Girl: A New Hope

Here’s how we roll “text game” as a result of testing it on a massive, massive scale. After meeting a girl for the first time, if she texts you (we never text first), politely wait 24 hours and respond with the following:

“(Her name),

Thanks for the message.
I had a fun time meeting you.

(Your signature/sign off),
(Your name).”

If she keeps texting you and expects you to entertain her with reciprocal messages, note it as a red flag – her incessant texting is NEVER going to stop as long as you know her, relate with her or date her in any way. Be prepared to live with it (and the nagging when you don’t text) for the next 50 years.

Now guys who are meeting massive numbers of high quality women, well, those guys won’t even have time for girls who nag them about texting because they’ll have too many other hotter, cooler women they’ll prefer dealing with. In other words, they’ll have options. They can afford to pick and choose.

Politely respond to any further texts from her with at least a 24 hour waiting period (this trains her to understand your rules and boundaries for texing) and respond with something that includes no jokes, no funny ha-ha, no call-back humor, no sex talk, nothing that takes more than 20 seconds to write (VERY handy when you’re dating a whole lot of women).

Usually something like this works perfectly:

“(Her name),

Thanks for the message.

(Your signature/sign off),
(Your name).”

Anything more is just try hard.

She’s not in front of you, so hold the clever wit and charm for when you can look her in the eye.

And you can save the texts for… Well, actually, don’t save them. Just don’t do it. It destroys your image and everything that makes you attractive to high value women by be going back and forth with constant texting. It’s bad for you, bad for your soul and makes you a bad person (not really, but it will get you less results with lower quality women than being firm with your texting policies).

What To Say When Texting A Girl: The Exception

If you feel you simply MUST text a girl, here is what to say when texting a girl first, unprompted.

Wait 5 to 7 days after getting her number. Text her with a short invitation along these lines:

“Hi (her name),

This is (your name). Let’s go on a coffee date. Which day is better, X or Yday?

(Your signature/sign off),
(Your name).”

Abrupt?

Yes.That’s on purpose (everything you read on this site is on purpose). There are no accidents.

It weeds out girls who aren’t into us and/or girls with baggage. Beautiful girls who like you and have healthy self-esteem, will like you even more when you are LESS available and keep your non-date contact brief. It takes self-control but believe us when we say that the results are WELL worth it. Actually, don’t believe us – test everything out for yourself on a few hundred/thousand women over the course of a month or two and then let us know your results.

Now, some guys might say, “That’s lame! How does a text like that help me get seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeex?”

Yes, it is lame by the Playa / Gamer / Pick Up Artist standard of ‘the more difficult it is to do the cooler it is.’ That’s why you see all the over-complicated “text-game” methods out there. They know that in order to make money, they gotta sell something big and complicated looking – irregardless of what gets the best, fastest results with the hottest women.

Here at DateMasters, we like the easiest single  path to getting the best possible results with the highest quality women. Bottom-line: Our messages work to get great results (for both getting AND keeping high quality women) while also saving you time and money.

At the end of the day, the best text game is no text game. Give her the gift of missing you. Only use technology to set up another face-to-face meet. Stop typing in your phone and go meet some real live human girls.