What To Do While Waiting For Your Date To Show Up


In this article, I'm going to talk about waiting for you date to show up: how to deal with pre-date nervousness, suggested activities to do while waiting, what time you should get there and guidelines for what to do if she's late, flakes, or stands you up.


In this article, I’m going to talk about waiting for you date to show up: how to deal with pre-date nervousness, suggested activities to do while waiting, what time you should get there and guidelines for what to do if she’s late, flakes, or stands you up.

Do You Get Pre-Date Nervousness?

Some guys get all worked up and stressed out while waiting for a date.
Relax, bro.
It’s gonna be alright.
Remember, a lot of pressure and stress in dating comes from Chasing (rather than Identifying).
Remember, we can’t control how she’s going to feel about us, nor can we control her actions. We can only control ourselves. That’s why if you’re there to see how well you get along and accept that some girls won’t be right for you (and that you won’t be right for many girls), it’s all good no matter what she does. It’s even better if you’ve built an abundance reality.
Learn to enjoy what mainstream society would call ‘bad dates.’
Your date gives you some ‘tude?
Laugh, tell her you had a fun time and make your way to the door.
Your date tries to guilt trip you?
Laugh, tell her you had a fun time and make your way to the door.
Your date shows up drunk and dressed like a slob?
Laugh, tell her you had a fun time and make your way to the door.
Your date shows up looking great and brings her A-game?
Laugh, have a light, playful conversation and enjoy yourself.
It’s all practice – don’t take anything she says seriously. Keeping all this in mind helps me deal with any pre-date “butterflies” in my stomach.

What time you should you show up for a date?

We recommend getting to your meeting spot about 5-10 minutes early.
Some people say don’t go early because it shows neediness… Well, no, we disagree. Going early gives you information.. How early does she show up? Is she right on time? Is she late? Even being a minute late without letting you know in advance is strike against her in our book.
For the first 5 minutes after the agreed upon meeting time, wait patiently. Read a book, check yourself out in a mirror, take care of minor grooming things.
After 5 minutes of waiting, feel free to chat up any attractive women in the area. (For a first date/TLCD we recommend meeting somewhere near lots of people, if possible.)
This may be a bit too intense for some guys. “WHAT?! Talk to girls while I’m waiting for my date?! What if she sees me?!”
She’s late. You’re searching for quality backup. If she shows up and sees you and asks “Who was that girl?” / “Why were you talking to her?” then be straight up: “I was just search for quality back up while waiting for you to arrive. You look good. So what did you do today?”
After 10 minutes of waiting, leave.
She’s done. She has no respect for you, your time, and she’s just not that into you. Any girl who’s got an ounce of intelligence AND has an ounce of interest in you will give you a call or text beforehand to let you know she’ll be 10 minutes late.
If she doesn’t, leave, burn her number, don’t answer your phone if she calls and go meet more women. In fact, as you’re leaving the waiting spot, go ahead and start meeting more women right there and then on the way back home and/or to whever you’re going next.
One door closes, another 30 open.

What to do if she contacts you and cancels the date?

If it’s a message, burn her number, don’t answer your phone and go meet some more women. In fact, as you’re leaving the waiting spot, go ahead and meet more women right there and then on the way back home and/or to wherever you’re going next.
If it’s a call, be polite and cordial on the call, and once you hang up, burn her number, don’t answer your phone and go meet some more women.
One door closes, another 30 open.

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