Does being on a date feel more like a grueling battle than a fun, exciting and easy interaction with a wonderful, sexy woman. Find out how to remove dating stress...
I went through a period of my life where dating was quite stressful.
Being on a date felt more like a
challenging, high-stakes battle than a fun, exciting and easy interaction with
a wonderful, sexy woman.
To be fair, some guys like dating
to be stressful. They feel like if dating, attracting and interacting with
beautiful women weren’t a massive challenge, then it isn’t worth doing it. I
prefer to do all of the challenging work OUTSIDE of my interactions with women
while making the actual experience of dating and relating with women an easy,
care-free thing.
In fact, for guys who like
beautiful women to be difficult, I’d recommend not reading this article – it’s
intended for guys who want to make dating and attracting beautiful women as
easy and smooth as possible.
The Core Issue Behind Why Dating
Is Stressful For Some Guys…
A
major concept that we talk about is Chasing.
Chasing is a major force holding guys back and it’s often encouraged by the
media, most pick up companies, Disney and just about every other mainstream
source of dating advice out there.
Chasing is the feeling that urges
guys to “do whatever it takes” to “get the girl” no matter what the cost to his
self-respect and self-esteem and no matter how ineffective it might actually be
at “getting the girl.”
More than anything else I’ve seen
in guys, the Chasing mindset causes an obscene amount of stress for guys who
want to date beautiful women. It even causes stress when they’re actually with
the girl on a date and even away from the girl in between dates.
And it doesn’t take a geologist
to tell you that too much stress will cause some cracks and quakes eventually.
How To Stop Dating Stress…
I want you to step back for a
minute and imagine that the situation was reversed.
What if SHE wanted to do whatever
it takes to get YOU?
What if the beautiful, successful
women that most guys drool over would do everything in their sexy power to try
to convince YOU that SHE is better than all the other girls competing for your
affections?
When
you move away from the Chasing mindset and move towards Identification,
this is what starts to happen.
And
let me tell you, dating is incredibly relaxing and fun when she likes you and
does whatever she can to make you happy. Dating beautiful women becomes your stress relief!
Plus, when you move away from
Chasing her, it allows her to chase you:
I once told a girl that I couldn’t
be her boyfriend. No explanation. No apologies. No rationalizations or lame
excuses. She was really into me, but I told her straight-up that if that’s not
ok with her, then it’s best if we both just move on.
What was her response?
“Thanks for being so honest with
me. So, then I’ll just have to be better and more fun than the other girls
you’re dating!”
Girls who like you and who have
healthy self-esteems will chase you when you let them. When guys are busy
chasing her with Pick Up Artist techniques, etc., they forfeit their ability to
create relationships where really hot women are chasing them.
Some guys don’t want women
ditching other guys and chasing them because that makes the women too “easy.”
If you like the idea that beautiful women will compete to try to win YOU over,
then you’re in the right place.
Move away from Chasing and start
Identifying.
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