Do you hide your spending from your mature mate? I was shopping with a friend the other day and she bought a few pieces of clothing and a pair of shoes. She paid for all of them by cash which I find a little strange. After all, people generally pay for their shopping by credit card these days because you do get to collect points or cash dollars which you can redeem later if you pay by card.
So, I asked her why and that was when I found out that she actually hides purchases from her husband. Usually, these are clothing items and shoes although once in a while, she also hides gifts that she buys for loved ones. I was a little surprised because I thought it is kind of hard to hide what you buy from your spouse. But apparently not if you know when to buy and how to pay for them.
My friend told me that rather than always have to explain why she is buying a particular item, she would just do it quietly when her husband is not home. She just doesn’t want the hassle of having to defend her spending habits and end up arguing with her husband. She justifies that by saying that everyone spends on different things and as long as she is doing it within her means, she should be free to buy the clothes and shoes that she wants. Her husband, of course, does not agree and feels that it is a waste of money to spend so much on clothes and shoes.
Differences in opinions between two partners are naturally common. But when it comes to how you spend your money, should you hide things from your spouse?
I can relate to this and Moxie’s reply, as well. Dating after divorce has been very difficult for me because I have this natural tendency to keep my guard up and assume any nice guy is secretly not so nice and it’s just a matter of time before he really hurts me. I’m trying to live day by day and smile and say thanks when the compliments come.
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