Is it Okay to Call Him?

Lee Ann is confused. She met a cute guy named Dave on a couple of separate occasions. He gave her his cell phone and asked her to call.

Lee Ann didn’t.

Lee Ann did, however, call Dave for business since he works at the car dealership where she takes her car for repairs.

After her oil filter was replaced, Dave asked Lee Ann for a date.

Excited, Lee Ann primped and prepared and went out with Dave.

At the end of the evening, Dave said, “This was cool. Call me if you want to hang out again.”

WTF??? Is this some kind of test?

“What’s he doing?” Lee Ann asks in frustration. ”What’s going on? Is he trying to get me to chase him?”

Oh yeah. That’s exactly what he’s doing.

How many times have you met a cute guy, had a great conversation and right before parting, he gives you his card and asks you to call?

It happens all the time.

What do you do when he asks you to call? What are your choices?

Here are three:

1. Call Him

This is an option. You can call him. You can chase. You can invite him out, pick him up and pay.

Because when you call a guy, you’re playing the role of a masculine “Hero.” You’re the initiator. You make the plans. You pay.

If you call him, you can’t expect him to pick up the lead, invite you out and pay. That’s not how it works.

If you want to chase him … if you want to pursue him … you have every right to do it.

Carry on! Just don’t forget your wallet.

2. Don’t Call Him

This works beautifully when you don’t like the guy.

If he gives you his card and asks you to call, say “thank you” with a smile on your face and put it in your purse.

Keep smiling … knowing you will never have to see him again.

Of course if you like the guy and don’t call him … where does that leave you?

3. Tell Him How You REALLY Feel

If the guy you like asks you to call and you know you don’t want to chase him, but you also know you’d like to see him again, here’s what you do:

First, thank him for inviting you to call.

Second, tell him you’re not comfortable calling men.

Third, tell him you feel better when he calls you and you will call him back.

If he calls you, he’s interested. If he doesn’t, he’s not. Wouldn’t you like to know if he’s into you sooner rather than later?

Thought so. See how simple it is?