Last
week, Jezebel.com released
a story about “The Match.com Spreadsheet Guy,” a man who meticulously
recorded details about the women he met online.
We at DateMasters salute you, Mr.
Spreadsheet Guy, for taking control of your life in a way most men never do by
simply keeping records and stats of your dating list.
That being said, we have some
advice for Mr. Spreadsheet and other men out there who have chosen to use a
spreadsheet to keep track of all the women they are meeting so that they can
find a really Great One.
Keep Your Dating Information
(Spreadsheets Included) To Yourself
NEVER
send any of your recorded dating information to someone you’re dating. Heck,
never send it to anyone, ever! For that matter, never tell anyone your opinions
and thoughts about your dating life. It’s a recipe for disaster no matter how
you cut it. Discretion and mystery are
very useful skills to cultivate and we highly recommend it.
Back to this guy. Sending your
dating info spreadsheet to a girl you’re dating is like sending your life
saving by wire transfer to the de-throned Nigerian prince who emailed you and
promises to repay you once he takes back the kingdom.
Yeah.
Dumb move.
Not
exactly the smoothest way to cultivate an air of class, mystery and
challenge. We keep the closet full of magic tricks closed and locked tightly
unless we need to get in there for some reason… Usually, it’s not to reveal all
the secrets to a random passerby.
Dealing With Guilt Trips
But
as things turned out, The Spreadsheet Guy / David Merkur sent his spreadsheet
to a girl he was dating, and what’s done is done. Now he has to deal with wacky
guilt trips coming at him from all angles. One like this one from
Annie Karni at The New York Post:
“But,
Spreadsheet Guy, if you can’t even remember the bar where you had your first
date if it’s not in your data dump then things are likely doomed from the
start.”
Fact of the matter is guys are
going to have to meet TONS of women if they really want to find an Amazing one
who’s hot, has a great attitude and is totally into him.
The converse is true for women as
well – they already know they have to kiss a bunch of frogs before they find a
prince. Unless the person (guy or girl!) has a gift for memorization, it’s
simply neither plausible nor desirable to hold all the details of every member
of the opposite sex they meet… Especially when the girls have tons of guys
stepping to them daily or the guys are getting up and out meeting at least 30
women a day.
And as for all the “spreadsheets
are creepy” judgment stuff flying around, well, yep, that was covered in Guilt
Tripping 101. And yes, they’re probably right, from their point of view
spreadsheet certainly could be considered creepy, and we’ll definitely consider
their advice and…
Simply continue doing what we
know works best – talking to massive amounts of women every day, taking stats
(on a spreadsheet no less!), experiencing wild success, teaching it to our
students and having them replicate the success.
“I am only a year outside your 24 to 28 target age range — and I
fear having a fun date with a guy like you only to end up as a line on a
spreadsheet.“
Another guilt trip, but Karni is
actually on to something – she SHOULD be afraid that she might end up as just
another line on a dude’s spreadsheet.
When we meet high value women who
have an Amazing attitude, bring a lot to the table and are totally into us in
addition to having good looks, they quickly “rise above” spreadsheet status.
Unfortunately, the vast majority of beautiful women we meet simply don’t have
the chops to cut it – they have baggage, daddy issues, gold-digging tendencies,
or otherwise extremely unattractive traits that aren’t what we’re looking for
in the women we want to surround ourselves with.
However,
if we meet a really Great One, she’ll be happy to know that she’ll still be
around long
after the spreadsheet has been regulated to the recycle bin of
history. Likewise, if she knows how to really hold on to the guy, the guy will
know that she’s literally the best of the best after talking to, say, 9,537
women and that she’s actually truly better than all of them.
Get
up, get out, meet lots of women every day, take stats, record them (yes, on a spreadsheet)
and Be Amazing.
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