Preying on Insecurities


Everyone has their own set of insecurities, may it be physically, mentally, and yes — financially. Everyone either tries to deal with them or worse, hide them. Of course, there’s the matter of people unaware of their insecurities, too. And that poses a huge weak point that, sadly, others take advantage of.

 In the dating scene, you will encounter varied ways on how a guy or a girl would prostitute themselves just because of an insecurity. And like I said, there will be people who actually zone in on those insecurities and use them to their advantage.

 One article that I came across illustrates this best. It talks about some individuals who actually target inmates for god knows whatever reason apart from boredom or curiosity. Well, it cited some of the possible reasons, factual and speculative, but I’m leaving it up to you to find out.

 It’s highly unconventional, I know. It’s not something I’d approve of but to each his own, right? Or is it? What do you think?

 Anyway, I’m not suggesting that you receive people with cynicism — that only gives your insecurities power over you. There’s no harm in being wary, though. Best way to go about this is to face your insecurities and learn to love yourself. Always tell yourself that you’re good enough for anyone.


Based on interviews with hundreds of active daters for her book, “Smart Man Hunting,” Liz H. Kelly provides 10 questions that can help you ignite sparks online:

Where did you get that fantastic smile?
What is your favorite ice cream flavor and why?
What is the most romantic place that you’ve been on a date?
What would you do if we got stuck in a snow storm in the mountains?
If you were going to take me out for a romantic evening, what would we do?
What is your favorite thing to do with a partner for fun?
If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
How long have you played guitar? (Ask about something in their profile.)
Wow, is that your cute golden retriever? (Compliment something in their photograph.)
When are we going to meet to find out whether we would ever want to kiss each other? (Depending on the person, you can sound cute using this one)

Liz H. Kelly is a dating coach and author of “Smart Man Hunting: A Fast-Track Dating Guide for Finding Mr. Right.” Her proactive dating strategy has been featured on such shows as FOX News, BBC Radio, Dick Clark’s “The Other Half” and Lifetime’s “Speaking of Women’s Health.” Her dating tips have also appeared in Cosmopolitan, Glamour, USA Today and the Chicago Tribune. Look for Liz online at smartmanhunting.com.

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