OP should just enjoy her relationship and not listen to that noise about the rushing and what not. The guy talked about getting engaged in a year, so classic it is a cliche, nothing to fuss over. My only advice would be to not move in just yet since you just got into that new city and you need to create your own support system there, have some space to entertain your OWN new friends. Go on with him but also work on your social life in that new town. It will give you more clarity and perspective; it is very easy to turn overly fusional when you know very little people.
I have just been scanning through the comments and this thought comes to mind. To clarify first, I am not saying this type of person is BAD I am just saying it is a certain type of person and most people tend to roll their eyes at these types of people. The Person who falls in love in such a way that no one else has ever loved like this before, the type of person who loves their children so much that no one else could possibly understand the love because no one else could love their children as much, the type of person who is just so special and extraordinarily better than everyone else that everyone who comes in contact with them has such special feelings towards them.
http://www.astro.caltech.edu/twiki_phat/bin/viewfile/Main/WebHome?rev=1;filename=17_Relationship_Rules_for_2020_Men_from_a_1913_Book.pdf
Truly I think Moxie hit it on the head when she said “There you have it” when the OP said she needed a commitment in order to have sex.
This may work out and it may crash and burn but it seems you are looking for some validation as to how special you are that this is the real deal where for other people moving at warp speed it is not. At the end of the day, it does not matter to anyone here but you so all anyone is trying to tell you is to be cautious and take your time. For the Real Deal, time is always a blessing and it strengthens your feelings and you see the true character of the person not just who and what someone says in order to get you to have sex with them.
Listen to what people are saying – be cautious and take your time to let your feelings deepen over shared experiences that bond you in friendship and love.
http://www.astro.caltech.edu/twiki_phat/pub/Main/PhatTimeline/What_Your_Mustache_Tells_Her_About_You.pdf
I’m not the most observant of women but two things struck me:
1. The man met the OPs family but she hasn’t met his. Of course, if might have been because they live out of the area but there has been quite a few holidays between now and the time they met. If they were committed after one week, there should have been a few occasions to meet at least SOMEONE or make plans to meet them. I consider that more of a commitment than a trip to Europe where he knows no one,
2. The OP is new to the area but the guy seems pretty established there. Has she met any of his friends? He seemed awfully willing to spend all his free time with someone he just met. What did he do with his free time before they met? Sit home and twiddle his thumbs? So either he doesn’t have any friends – bad sign, or he hasn’t thought of introducing her to them – really bad sign.
If this situation had happened in New York City, I would say beware. But I traveled around the country many years ago and I found that in places like the Mid-West and the South, EVERYONE was in a couple and I do mean EVERYONE. It was actually kind of scary.
Have you noticed that this is the norm in your neck of the wood? If so, maybe this guy is genuine. Although I’d like to believe there are steadfast rules to dating and relationships, I am beginning to see that there really are few if any rules that apply to every situation.
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